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2020.10.01 18:52 Mimetic_ Experimental v1.2 01/10/2020

Experimental v1.2 01/10/2020
Version 1.2 EXP
Hi Galactic Survivalists!
Welcome to version 1.2 EXPERIMENTAL!
Those of you, following us on the forums, twitter and Discord might already have seen a few of the additions, update 1.2 will add to the game. But as this patch has been growing a bit more into an intermediate version, there is a lot more to be found. Some additions might only seem to be visual changes, like the new Asteroid rings (which are now visible from planets as well) and other entries of the changelog below might sound like technical shenanigans, but both will prepare some of the groundwork we will iterate on for this years ‘Christmas update’.
While you venture through the world of v1.2, also mind the new behavior and attacks of the ‘Otyugh’ land predator, check the loot boxes closely for a new fire-spitting weapon and enjoy all the new POIs.
A note for builders: In case your structure or vessel suddenly loses oxygen, check your slant, half and irregular blocks, tilted windows and other elements that worked to ‘seal off’ an area before! The O2 distribution is now calculated on 0.5m scale and will be able to fill in and pass through tighter areas!
Check out all the changes and additions in the changelog below!
As always please note:
Have fun exploring the v1.2 Experimental!Empyrion Dev Team

Patch 2020-28-09 v1.2 (B3124)
  • Asteroids Rings: adjusted ring texture slightly, supporting now color grading (in yaml specifiy either "color1" or "color1 - color2"), visible from planet, playfield server now generates correct colliders around all players
  • Asteroids Rings: bigger size, allow to specify the color in the playfield.yaml under Properties, default color is grey
  • AsteroidRings: slightly higher distance to planet of inner ring, taking two random colors if nothing specified in yaml
  • AsteroidRings: desaturized random ring colors a bit, increased visible near distance of dust from 50m to 150m, improved fade in of asteroids
  • AsteroidRings: tinting asteroids according to ring color, asteroids got a bit bigger to avoid vessels getting stuck on colliding
  • AsteroidRings: increased visible near distance of dust even more from 150m to 200m, asteroids get now position above or below dust to not cut into it, higher visible distance for smaller asteroids
  • MP: structure updates are now sent every 3s instead of only 5s to show f.e. shield update state in MP faster
  • Optimization: all turrets in all structures don't do any target raycasting any more if they are switched off in CP
  • GrassV2: allowing now Flower01 and other cross planes in a much higher number, scaling xz also with half y if specified
  • GrassV2: increased number of possible instances from 2.5k to 30k
  • GrassV2: set internal buffers for custom mesh grass to 1000 each as they don't occur that often (performance optimization)
  • GrassV2: Added: custom meshes, improved probability backward compatibility
  • Added option to disallow spawn nearby in PvP
  • Land predator "Otyugh" improved behavior. Added: fireball and flame breath as attack options
  • Add INFO button + popup to constructor, furnace and deconstructor UI's
  • Modders can now put changed configuration files for the default scenario (.ecf files in Content/Configuration) in Content/Mods => no more need to touch the originals which will be overwritten with each update
  • Console command 'prefabinfo': Added: description for two parameters
  • Added: Structure Attack and Defense values to allow assessing / comparing different structures in regard of combat strength
  • Added: +PlayfieldDOKU folder to playfields and Added: Playfield Ambient Sound and Soundtrack files there.
  • O2 calculation is now done on 0.5m voxels instead of 1m voxels. With that change, structures will get oxygened in much more detailed areas.
  • ModAPI: Added: some requested properties to IStructure
  • ModAPI: Added: some requested properties to IEntity
  • Solar Panel : new console command "spanel sf Parma1 Param2" will add energy = Param1 to the solar battery. Param2 is optional and is the entity Id targeted (it must be a spawned base) without Param2 the closest base to the player will be targeted.
  • DialogueSystem: Added: new variable types (dbglobalpf_int and dbplayerpoi_int)
  • Creative mode: default-deactivated CPU (CPU and m/v can be activated via console > use 'help gopt' for more info)
  • Added: to /content/playfields folder: text file each with list of soundtracks and ambient sounds (for builders and creators)
  • Added: Flamethrower and Ammo to some Traders and Loot Tables
  • Added: error message when a playfield.yaml is of 0 bytes (reported by a server owner)
  • Add option to disallow spawn nearby in PvP
  • Internal optimization: normal data for planets is now saved in cache folder instead recreated every time on load
  • Removed internal workaround that planet needed to get rotated by 90°
  • Updated: Zirax Gas Refinery (Kaeser)
  • Added: New variant for Tribal Burial Chamber (Kaeser)
  • Added: AbandonedOutpost and AbandonedWorkshop (new T1 starter planet POIs; Not yet deployed; thx to fractalite & vermillion)
  • Added: Temple of the Lazpereis (Escarli; POI has pre-damaged admin core)
  • Added: Civil Transport Hub T2 (by Kithid)
  • Added: dedicated HP to CV Warpdrive
  • Added: Kriel Space Drone Base ( by Escarly)
  • Added: Zirax Dreadnought (by vermillion)
  • Updated: RadosMissileBase (thx to vermillion)
  • Updated: Zirax Gas Refinery (Kaeser)
  • Updated: Kriel BAO Caenum Platearum (by Escarli)
  • Asteroids Rings: adjusted ring texture slightly, supporting now color grading (in yaml specifiy either "color1" or "color1 - color2"), visible from planet (position is still wrong!), playfield server now generates correct colliders around all players
  • Dialogues.ecf and Dialogues-config-and-examples.txt: Added example for Traders to have dialogue with the choice to go to their offers
  • Trader dialogue is now saved into blueprints as well
  • Sun light color is now applied to rings and distant objects as well
  • Updated Main Localization
  • Partially updated Localization of Default Scenario (PDA and Dialogues)
  • Partially updated Localization of Tutorial (PDA); Note: Empyriopedia has been removed from Tutorial PDA until updated/restructured
  • Ring asteroids: adjusted rotation to fit the old rings better, adjusted radius to fit the old rings better
  • DialogueSystem: allowing now 30 items for all lists (f.e. Next, etc), allowing now max. 12 results (old was 7), added possibility to jump to a state defined in a string variable
  • Set back device textures to 2k (from 1k). Use texture resolution "Half" to save memory on low end computers
  • Adapted Constructor-like devices help text's loca keys
  • Added randomized dialogue quotes to walking civilians and guards in the polaris planetary trading station (Starter planet) as a first test
  • Added back old Empyriopedia to Tutorial scenario for EXP v1.2
  • DB: added index for discovered POIs to speed up query
  • DB: added index for entities to speed up query
  • Fixed: Vegetation showing in POIs
  • Fixed: [MP] AI Turrets sometimes continue to shoot at dead NPC's that are not rendered
  • Fixed: Slow / bugged terrain rendering around POIs in MP
  • Fixed: Ultra Rare Alien Containers sometimes do not have loot
  • Fixed: Cruise Mode with thrusters off does not let ship come to a full stop
  • Fixed: Vessels can get stuck inside other vessels when the parent vessels "rolls" after undocking
  • Fixed: NPC spawn on Waystation 04
  • Fixed: Food Processor is always on when spawning a blueprint in
  • Fixed: Salvaging ventilator blocks did not give back materials
  • Fixed: issue with turkish loca on some occurences
  • Fixed: ZiraxCommander (old AI) can shoot through windows/walls/blocks
  • Fixed: Ammo missing message displaying when ammo type is available in the ammo box
  • Fixed: Certain blocks/devices get wrong block picked up with SI-collapsed parts
  • Fixed: A face of the block shape "Cube Stepped Edge" can go invisible when placed next to another block
  • Fixed: "Cut corner e" can get a invisible side with concrete stairs
  • Fixed: [MP/Co-op] No sound from doors or ramps which are setup to be controlled by motion sensors
  • Fixed: [Co-op] A CoQ can trigger when trying to join a Co-op game that has a password setup
  • Fixed: Drones randomly spawning in 1 location
  • Fixed: StationServices take money from player although repair area blocked / no repair happened
  • Fixed: Logistics window shows too many item cells and 'connected color' overlay stays on screen in these surplus cells (e.g. when changing to a repair station)
  • Fixed: Planet patrol vessels will not respawn
  • Fixed: O2 does not pass through doorframes and through certain arrangements
  • Fixed: Exiting a planet or moon's atmosphere into space will result in you being kicked backwards back into the planet
  • Fixed: Pirates Raider Base
  • Fixed: CoQ after removing the container assigned to deconstructor
  • Fixed: Auto level for players & vessels when within 6.25km of a planet is not the same
  • Fixed: Vessels can get stuck inside other vessels when the parent vessels "rolls" after undocking
  • Fixed: problem that .bin file was always regenerated on first load of the game
  • Fixed: rolling prevents (shield) damage
  • Fixed: Thrust projection for "Thruster jet M" & "Thrusters L" not centered
  • Fixed: Auto level for players & vessels when within 6.25km of a planet is not the same
  • Fixed: prefabinfo does not find blueprints in Stock folder
  • Fixed: Stopped AI Vessels can continue to move if the player moves far away
  • Fixed: "Discovered by" dates are not progressing & stuck at 01/08/2474
  • Fixed: Players with to high ping dont get kicked (=> on client side there is now a popup shown if the ping is 10s higher than the limit)
  • Fix for regression that player died again when he respawned at medic station and the BA with the medic station was DSL'ed
  • DialogueSystem: potential fix for losing variable content if there was a connection timeout when starting a dialogue
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2020.10.01 18:25 tdithers Fallout 76: Inside the Vault – October 2020 Updates

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This week, we’re sharing information about Shelters play testing in the Public Test Server, which begins later today. We’ve got a new Double S.C.O.R.E. event starting today, and a reminder to submit spooky screenshots to Around Appalachia. Read on to catch all the details.

Check Out Shelters in the PTS

We’re excited to announce that our upcoming C.A.M.P. Shelters feature is going to be available for play testing in the Public Test Server (PTS) starting a little later today, October 1! We briefly touched on Shelters last week, and we’re going to dive into even more information below. Before we do, we’d like to discuss our current top priority for play testing at the start of the PTS.
From October 1 – 4, we’d love to see as many of you as possible join us in Shelters play testing in the PTS. Shelters will remain available for the entire duration of the PTS, but having everyone focus on them over a single weekend will help us keep a close eye on performance while lots of players are building at once. Using that data, we will be able to implement any needed performance improvements prior to release. If you own a PC copy of Fallout 76 via, please join us in the Test Server to build and rebuild as much as you can in Shelters this weekend. You’ll even be able to earn a new PTS Pennant for your efforts, and you will have the chance to get your Shelters screenshots featured on our social media channels (more on this in a moment.)

Build A New Life—Underground!

Show the Mole Miners how it’s really done with C.A.M.P. Shelters, which will allow you to head underground into instanced spaces that you can transform into your own unique creations. Shelters are currently planned to arrive in the live game near the end of this year, and we will be launching with three different types: the “Vault Utility Room,” the “Vault Lobby,” and the “Vault Atrium.” Each has its own layout, style, and size, and all three will be available for play testing in the PTS.
To access a Shelter, simply build the associated Shelter Entrance in your C.A.M.P. and then head inside. Since they are instanced, each Shelter will have its own build budget that’s separate from your main C.A.M.P. as well as any other Shelters you own. You can have one Shelter of each type in your C.A.M.P. at any given time, and you can build multiple entrances to the same Shelter, if you’d like. We’ve also removed material requirements in the PTS so that you can build in your Shelters without needing to hunt down tons of components.

Shelters at Launch

Once we add Shelters to the live game, all players will be able to freely unlock the “Vault Utility Room” by completing a very brief quest, called “Home Expansion.” The “Vault Lobby” will initially be one of our monthly free items for Fallout 1st members. After that, all players will be able to buy the Lobby using Atoms in the Atomic Shop. The largest of our first three Shelters, the “Vault Atrium,” will be available for Atom purchase immediately on patch day. In the PTS, we’ve disabled the “Home Expansion” quest so that you don’t need to unlock anything, and play testers will have access to all three Shelters right away.

Share Your Shelter with the World!

There are so many imaginative builders in the Fallout 76 community, and we can’t wait to see all the crafty creations you come up with for Shelters in the PTS! Snap a few photos once you’ve perfected your masterpiece this weekend, and then share your screenshots with us in the PTS forum through October 4. We’ll admire all of your submissions and select a few of our favorites to feature on our social media channels for all the world to see.

Show Off Your Efforts in the PTS

Even if your photo submissions aren’t selected, you can still pick up a new PTS Pennant reward for your C.A.M.P. in the live game by taking part in Shelters play testing. You can earn your Pennant by building in Shelters on at least three (3) different days, and using 75% or more of a Shelter’s build budget before the PTS concludes. Like last time, we will add the new Pennant to your account shortly after we release the Steel Dawn Update.
Even though we’re initially prioritizing performance testing, your Shelters feedback and bug reports are still important to us. Please feel free to share your experiences in the PTS forum so that we can get a head start on addressing bugs and community feedback. As mentioned last week, Shelters will be the only new content in the PTS at first, though you may encounter a few new NPCs with “Robovoice.” Of course, we’d also love to hear what you think about our upcoming Steel Dawn quests, and we’re planning to add them to the PTS later this month so that you can check them out.

Get Double S.C.O.R.E. This Weekend

You joined Armor Ace and the Power Patrol in their march against the Subjugator a few weeks ago, and now it’s time to bring in some reinforcements! Call in a cavalry of rewards as you rank up twice as quickly this weekend with our first Double S.C.O.R.E. event of Season 2. Over the next few days, you’ll receive double the normal S.C.O.R.E. rewards from each Daily Challenge you complete, so that you can keep up the battle for liberty. Catch the event dates and times below.

Double S.C.O.R.E. Details

Around Appalachia: Halloween Costumes

Even if you can’t take part in the PTS to share Shelters screenshots with us, you can still find your way onto the front page of by submitting photos for Around Appalachia. Last month, we asked you to send in your best snaps of cryptids, and you can check out some of our favorites by clicking here. We’re heading into the spookiest time of year, and this month we’re challenging you to share your most creative Halloween Costumes with us.
Submit your costume pics to this thread in the Fallout 76 forums by October 26, and we will select a few creepy candidates to feature in the next edition of Around Appalachia.

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2020.10.01 16:45 Jaye134 JOINING AND JOBS THREAD - ALL questions about joining, transferring in from another branch/service, benefits, life & jobs in the ANG, Palace Chase, MEPS, Tech Schools, how to become a pilot, benefits, etc. go here and only here Oct 1-15

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2020.10.01 16:23 Arthanias Bannerlord Modding Tools Beta

Hello everyone!

Previous Patch Thread

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TaleWorlds has released official modding tools for Bannerlord! The announcement is detailed below.

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Greetings warriors of Calradia!

After a short delay, the first batch of modding tools is ready for a beta release! They include:
Scene Editor Toolset
•Entity Placement Tools
•Terrain Import, Export, and Editing Tools
•Navigation Mesh Tools
•GI Baking Tools
•Level System Editing Tools
Resource Editors
•Resource Browser
•Material Editor
•Mesh Editor
•Texture Editor
•Body Editor
•Cloth Editor
•Atmosphere Editor
Currently, you will need to own the game on Steam in order to access the tools. To download them, you should head to your Library page and select TOOLS from the list filter. You can then search for Mount & Blade II: Bannerlord - Modding Kit and proceed to download the tools after accepting the Mod Tools License Agreement. Please note that you will need to have the game installed for the tools to work. Likewise, your game version and tool version need to match in order for the tools to operate.
With tools in hand, you can then head over to to access the modding documentation. Please be aware that these are living documents and, as such, they will be adjusted and updated over time. With that in mind, if you experience any issues or have any feedback you would like to share in regards to the documentation, you can head on over to the Official Modding Documentation thread. Similarly, you can go to the Official Tools section of our modding forums to provide suggestions and report any problems you run into while using the modding tools. And if forums aren’t really your thing, you can join the Modding Discord to find like-minded users to discuss the tools with.
For those of you that are new to modding, or for those that simply want to get up to speed with our tools, you can check out this recent Developer Workshop livestream where we gave a detailed overview of the scene editor and its many features. We hope to share more content like this in the near future, so make sure to follow our channels to keep up to date with those announcements.
Video: Developer Workshop - Map Editor
Finally, we just want to say how thrilled we are to be able to share these tools with you all! There are already so many amazing mods out there and others with huge potential that are still in the works, and we are just happy to be involved and to be able to support these kinds of efforts with the release of this first batch of tools. So, on that note, we want to give a huge shoutout and thanks to our amazing modding community, in particular the testing group that helped us to bring these to release, and say that we are truly excited to see what you manage to accomplish with these tools!
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2020.10.01 16:10 barmcake365 Boyfriend, seeking advice?

I must've wrote this post ten times last night and deleted, managed to have a decent sleep and woke up refreshed
Anyway, my girlfriend has been suffering with Vaginismus long before I came on the scene, although able to have PIV, some unknown things can trigger convulsions, completely turning her off, and other times sexual intimacy alone can give her anxiety.
We had a rough patch near the start of the year before we were, let's say "officially dating", where she was staying at my place for a couple week, but decided to crash at another guys after she got black out drunk, she claims not to remember anything BUT kissing this guy, then walking up needing to get a taxi to my place. That morning she lied to me about where she had stayed and told me she was horny, which is one of the few times that has happened. Although I believe her, and we are have talked through it, I feel as a result of this I've been ignorant or maybe more inpatient to some of her issues. (I know and understand that her vaginismus is not my fault, but this experience really made me feel like I do not help her condition at all & she found someone else more comfortable to be around.)
I have been in this subreddit a little while and find comfort that we aren't the only people experiencing this.
I've always listened and took on board what she has to say, and I feel like we do still connect so I try to give her time and space to deal with it, I'll let her know everythings fine if she seems stressed about sex and just cuddle and chat when she hits that brick wall. I've bought toys (not dilators although this might be an idea) and let her know that these are not something for me, but herself in her own time when she feels ready. I've sent her, and read through countless articles, forums and "research" with her but I think it all still scares her and she just kinda accepts that sometimes she does not want sex and has a low sex drive.
For me, I work in a local hospital and have just spent my time during the COVID pandemic working on the Ventilation Unit with Corona patients, seeing stuff I definitely didn't wanna see. My girlfriend stayed with me throughout as her parents needed to shield, so we spent a lot of time together where she made progress on her own mental state, where as I just kinda felt exhausted all the time, struggling to keep my own head together and remain supportive, but I feel my own mental state suffering through what feels like constant rejection, and if we do have PIV, it all kinda feels pitiful and for the wrong reasons.
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2020.09.30 20:36 Zuoosh [Recruiting]⚔️ 219 the Hempire Recruiting Competitive Members for Classic Wars & CWL ⚔️

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2020.09.30 17:30 Thane_Mantis Vora's Pact Patch Notes and Megathread

Vora's Pact Patch Notes and Megathread

Patch Notes • [Livestream]() • [Forum Post]() • [Overview]()

Flair New Champion: Vora, The Harbinger

Her entire life was once devoted to Io, the Moon Goddess. She was a member of a martial order tasked with protecting ancient seals, but even they did not know the extent of the chaos beneath. Betrayed by her Goddess and alone in an uncaring world, she has chosen to embrace that chaos. The Realm is on the path of self-destruction, and if that is what it desires, she is more than happy to oblige. Those who dread her coming are those who have any knowledge of the workings of the world beyond their own lives, for she is Vora, Harbinger of the End of the Realm, and they are not prepared.
Flair Flank Health: 2000 Abilities
Name Skill Type Description Cooldown
[Passive] Darkness Buff / Healing Hits with your scythe provide a Darkness stack to you. Using Dark Siphon or Obliteration will consume all Stacks, Healing you for 100 over 1s and augmenting the ability if at maximum Stacks. You can have a maximum of 5 Stacks. -
[Weapon] Deadly Scythe Buff / Direct Damage A Scythe that sends out projectiles that deal damage over a short duration. Hits with your scythe provide a Darkness stack to you. Using Dark Siphon or Obliteration will consume all Stacks, Healing you for 100 over 1s and augmenting the ability if at maximum Stacks. You can have a maximum of 5 Stacks. Its attack chain is: Medium, Light, Light, Heavy. Light: 300 damage every 0.35s Medium: 470 damage every 1s. Heavy: 680 every 1.2s -
[Alt-Fire] Obliteration Area Damage / Crowd Control Jump up and slash down around you, dealing 500 damage and applying a small Knockback to enemies hit. While using this ability, you are Immune to Damage and Crowd Control. Using Obliteration with 5 stacks of your passive deals an additional 300 damage and Slows enemies hit by 30% for 2s. -
[Ability 1] Dark Siphon Crowd Control / Direct Damage / Healing Launch a vicious projectile from your Scythe, dealing 200 damage on hit and an additional 400 damage over 1.5s. Hitting an enemy causes you to Regenerate 300 Health over 2s. Using this ability with maximum Darkness Stacks will Cripple the enemy hit for 1.5s. -
[Ability 2] Tendril Direct Damage / Mobility Manifest your will, propelling yourself towards your target with a tendril. Can hit players to pull you to them. -
[Ultimate] Harbinger's Wrath Buff / Crowd Control / Direct Damage / Execution Channel your wrath to hunt your enemies, increasing your Movement Speed by 80% and decreasing the damage you take by 30%. Select a target in range to hit them, Stunning, Crippling, and Silencing them. Enemies above 66% maximum Health take 1100 damage, while enemies at or below 66% maximum Health are Executed. This ability lasts 10s or until you select a target. Can be refired to cancel. -
Name Ability Description Cooldown
[Default] Unyielding Pressure Dark Siphon Your Dark Siphon now deals an additional 10% of the target’s maximum Health as damage over 1.5s.. -
[Level 2] Relentless Presence Tendril Tendril gains a second charge.. -
[Level 8] Deafening Silence Obliteration Obliteration now Silences enemies hit for 1.5s. -
A Dance with Fate Tendril Reduce the cooldown of Tendril by {0.6/0.6}s. -
Elegant Paring Tendril Reduce the Cooldown of Dark Siphon and Obliteration by {0.4/0.4}s after activating Tendril. -
Otherworldly Tether Tendril Gain a {75/75} Shield for 5s after activating Tendril. -
What May Come Tendril Reduce the damage you take by {5/5}% for 3s after activating Tendril. -
A Broken Path Dark Siphon Increase the Healing received from Dark Siphon by {50/50} health. -
A Change of Faith Dark Siphon Reduce the Cooldown of Tendril by {0.6/0.6}s after hitting an enemy with Dark Siphon. -
Crimson Ascent Dark Siphon Reduce the Cooldown of Dark Siphon by {1/1}s if it fails to hit a target. -
Unified in Purpose Dark Siphon Reduce the damage you take by 10% for {1/1}s after hitting an enemy with Dark Siphon. -
Broken Promises Obliteration Heal for {60/60} for each enemy hit with Obliteration. -
Deadly Dance Obliteration Generate {1/1}% Ultimate charge for each enemy hit by Obliteration. -
Inevitability Obliteration Reduce the Cooldown of Dark Siphon by {0.4/0.4}s after hitting at least one enemy with Obliteration. -
Ruthless Elegance Obliteration Increase the effect of the Knockback applied by Obliteration by {8/8}% of its base value. -
False Idol Weapon/Armour Increase your Movement Speed by {5/5}% and gain {5/5}% Lifesteal for 2s after falling to or below 40% Health. -
New Purpose Weapon/Armour Increase your maximum Health by {50/50}. -
Sharpened Resolve Weapon/Armour Consuming Darkness stacks Heals you for an additional {10/10} per stack. -
The Maw's Embrace Weapon/Armour Increase your Movement Speed by {6/4}% for 1s after hitting anything with Deadly Scythe. -


Galactic Conqueror
  • Unlocked with 800 Crystals
Seal Guardian (LIMITED)
  • Unlocked through Season Pass 2019 – 2020
Honor Guard
  • Unlocked through Season Pass 2019 – 2020
  • Unlocked with 200 Crystals or 60,000 Gold
Golden Vora
  • Obtained by Reaching Mastery level 50 with Vora

Arcane Pacts Battle Pass

The Radiant Stars Battle Pass will become unpurchasable with the release of Patch 5 – Arcane Pacts. The Arcane Pacts Battle Pass will be available for purchase with the release of patch 5.
Receive instant rewards for purchasing, and unlock over 100 more goodies just by playing and leveling up your Battle Pass. All players start earning Arcane Pacts Battle Pass experience as soon as the update is live. Battle Pass purchasers unlock premium rewards every level, along with the free track rewards.
The Arcane Pacts Battle Pass costs 600 Crystals, and rewards you just for playing. You can now unlock up to 450 Crystals through the Battle Pass Free Track, and an additional 150 through the Premium Track, making the Battle Pass FREE once completed. Explore our expanded content for each Champion featured in this Battle Pass.
Dive into this awesome Battle Pass with the Battle Passport, a one-time purchase that not only unlocks the new Battle Pass itself but the next 30 Battle Pass Levels so you can start playing with the Firebrand Tyra, Student of Magic Vivian, Honey King Bomb King, and Underkeeper Zhin right away!
The Battle Passport costs 1500 Crystals, saving you over 1000 Crystals!

Battle Pass Content

Instant Unlocks (Exclusive to Battle Pass Purchasers)
  • Firebrand Tyra
  • Animated Loading Frame
  • Static Avatar
  • 50% Experience and Gold Boost

Instant Unlocks (Exclusive to Battle Pass Purchasers)

  • Flair Firebrand Tyra
  • [Animated Loading Frame]()
  • [Animated Avatar]()
  • 50% Experience and Gold Boost

Battle Pass Skins (Exclusive to Battle Pass Purchasers):

Flair Student of Magic Vivian
  • Unlocked at Level 10
Flair Honey King Bomb King
  • Unlocked at Level 30
Flair Underkeeper Zhin
  • Unlocked at Level 50
Flair Frostbrand Tyra
  • Unlocked at Level 70
Flair Novice Vivian
  • Unlocked at Level 90
Flair Polar Bear Bomb King
  • Unlocked at Level 110
Flair Forest Stalker Zhin
  • Unlocked at Level 120

Other Battle Pass Exclusive Unlocks


Map Visual Update: Frozen Guard

Frozen Guard was given a complete visual overhaul to improve the visual quality and readability of the map. The layout of the map remains the same, but the architecture and natural elements were reworked to give a better sense of purpose and scale.
The spawn room was opened up to give the player the sense that they are part of a much larger world from the very start as they enter the map. No longer does the player spawn in a small dark room, but in a semi-open space that inspires wonder.
The Guardian statues that are the map’s namesake that flank the Capture Point building are one of the few points of interest remaining from the original version of Frozen Guard. But instead of blending in with the surrounding landscape, the statues are built on to the buildings in a more deliberate way to catch the player’s eye as they round the cart path leading out from the Capture Point.
A new vista was created. Instead of an ice quarry, Frozen Guard now sits high up on a mountainside overlooking the fjords, with other towns and buildings visible off in the distance.
In the new Frozen Guard there is much more for the player to explore!


Gamepad Scoreboard Improvements
Players on Gamepad will now be able to turn on a new setting called “Advanced Scoreboard” inside their Gameplay settings. Enabling this changes the scoreboard functionality from “Hold to Open” to “Press to Open”. Once the scoreboard is open, Gamepad players will be able to use their selected action when highlighting over an individual player to scroll through their cards and talents.
Item Store Undo Button
  • Players can now undo purchases made in the item store, as long as they have not closed the store page.
UI Updates
  • We have made various UI updates across paladins menus to increase legibility and highlight states.
    • Commendations
    • Quest Panels
    • Match Queues
    • Custom Games
Corvus Mark of Fate UI Indicator
  • Players affected by Corvus’ Mark of Fate ability will now have a UI marker on their screen to indicate this.
Bomb King Animation Rework
  • Bomb King’s ultimate has been slightly reworked and should now transition smoother between various states.


The team will continue our effort to give away unique avatars for those participating in various weekend bonus events throughout Vora’s Pact.
October is LGBT History Month. To commemorate this we are adding a variety of LGBT flag avatars to the game, priced for 1 Gold.
Kraumpus Raum
  • Obtainable from the Festive Presents chest.
  • Available December 2nd.


Dangerous Heroines
  • 300 Crystals
Release Date
  • November 4
  • Champion Skins
    • Street Style Maeve
    • Day Walker Vivian
    • Shore Patrol Lian
    • Steel Forged Imani
    • Gunslinger Tyra
    • Battlesuit Angel Furia
    • Iron Madam Inara
    • Divine Seris
Beyond Science and Fiction
  • 400 Crystals
Release Date
  • November 25
  • Champion Skins
    • Stellar Protector Vora
    • Battlesuit Godslayer Androxus
    • Steel Forged Barik
    • Omega Dredge
    • Crime Fighter Sha Lin
  • Mounts
    • Obsidian Warhorse

Ranked Split

Split Rewards
  • Play 5 Ranked matches
    • Gold Chest
  • Play 25 Ranked matches
Format Changes
  • All player ranks have been soft-reset for Split 3
Ranked Map Rotation
Each split, maps will either be in the active or reserved map pool. Reserved maps will not appear while playing ranked during that split. Each new split will see some maps rotated between the active and reserved pools. For Split 4, Frozen Guard and Ascension Peak will be rotating into the active map pool, while Brightmarsh and Bazaar will be rotating out.
Active Maps
  • Frog Isle
  • Ice Mines
  • Splitstone Quarry
  • Stone Keep
  • Jaguar Falls
  • Fish Market
  • Shattered Desert
  • Warder’s Gate
  • +Frozen Guard
  • +Ascension Peak
Reserved Maps
  • Timber Mill
  • Serpent Beach
  • -Brightmarsh
  • -Bazaar


Flair Androxus
  • Cursed Revolver
    • Increased damage falloff at at 100 units – 75% ➡️ 65%
Flair Corvus
  • Grand Design
    • Reduced Lifesteal scaling {5/5}% ➡️ {3/3}%
  • The Price of Salvation
    • Increased healing {60/60} ➡️ {75/75}
    • Reduced healing time 2s ➡️ 1s
Flair Grohk
  • Healing Totem
    • This ability has received some quality of life improvements to make dropping totems against walls easier. When aiming at a wall, Healing totems will now drop at the ground, if it is a valid location.
Flair Grover
  • Throwing Axe Flair
    • Increased damage over distance travelled now also scales on Shields and Deployables
Flair Imani
  • Frost Bolt AOC
    • Reduced time between attacks 0.8s ➡️ 0.5s
    • Reduced Damage 650 ➡️ 410
    • Reduced Projectile Speed 480 ➡️ 420
      • Now matches Pyre Ball
  • Elemental Shift
    • Reduced time to swap between stances 1s ➡️ 0.25s
  • Pyromania
    • Pyromania now causes all of your Pyre Balls to deal damage in an area.
    • Reduced Damage 1,000 ➡️ 800
    • Reduced Area 30 unit ➡️ 20 units
Flair Inara
  • Mother’s Grace
  • Reduced Damage Reduction 20% ➡️ 10%
  • Earthen Guard
    • Reduced bonus healing received 40% ➡️ 30%
  • Crag
    • Reduced internal cooldown 10s ➡️ 5s
Flair Lex
  • Combat Slide Flair
    • Can now be used while in Air
  • Retribution
    • When used, this ability will now prioritize the player with the highest Killstreak within 150 units of Lex. If no enemies are within 150 units, Retribution will then prioritize the player with the highest killstreak outside of 150 units.
    • Retribution can no longer target the same player twice in a row
Flair Makoa
  • Shell Spin AOC
    • Increased Damage 150 ➡️ 500
  • Shell Shield
    • Reduced cooldown 15s ➡️ 14s
  • Barrier Reef
    • Reduced damage threshold 2500 ➡️ 500
    • Reduced cooldown scaling {1/1}s ➡️ {0.2/0.2}s
Flair Pip
  • Combat Medic
    • Increased Healing 700 ➡️ 750
  • Catalyst
    • Increased duration of bonus damage 3s ➡️ 4s
  • Reduced Healing Potion cooldown 8s ➡️ 7s
  • Escape Artist
    • Increased weightless duration {0.2/0.2}s ➡️ {0.4/0.4}s
Flair Sha Lin
  • Rapid Shot
    • Reduced Cooldown 15s ➡️ 13s
  • Grounded
    • Increased health scaling {50/50}s ➡️ {60/60}
Flair Tiberius
  • Crouching Tigron Flair
    • This ability has received some quality of life treatments that will make it easier for players to control where they land.
Flair Viktor
  • Burst Mode
    • Reduced damage per shot 220 ➡️ 200
    • Max damage falloff reduced from 59% ➡️ 65%
      • Now does 65% of 200 instead of 59% of 220 at max range
    • Max damage falloff threshold reduced 200 units ➡️ 175 units
Flair Vivian
  • Deflector Shield Flair
    • Reduced shield health 1400 ➡️ 1200
  • Sentinels
    • Reduced damage 200 ➡️ 150
  • Contingency Flair
    • Reduced Shield Health scaling {170/170} ➡️ {125/125}
  • One Step Ahead
    • Reduced Movement Speed {6/6}% ➡️ {4/4}%
  • Scapegoat
    • Reduced Deflector Shield damage interception {10/10}% ➡️ {8/8}%

Bug Fixes

Flair Androxus
  • Fixed an issue where Reversal’s projectile would deal no damage to enemies if fired at point-blank range.
Flair Ash
  • Fixed an issue where Ash could improperly gain more maximum ammo than intended.
  • Fixed an issue where Ash could improperly activate Siege Shield in specific scenarios.
Flair Bomb King
  • Fixed an issue where the Ablative Coating card would not proc for each enemy hit by Poppy Bomb.
Flair Buck
  • Fixed an issue where the Bully card healed Buck for more than intended when he hit enemies with glancing blows.
  • Fixed an issue where Buck could heal off of damage-immune enemies with the Bully card.
Flair Corvus
  • Fixed an issue where Corvus would receive more healing than intended from the Grand Design card when he marked a target that had one or more other sources of Lifesteal that were not from Corvus.
Flair Dredge
  • Fixed an issue where Harpoon’s fire rate with the Hurl talent equipped was increasingly slower with more percentage Cooldown Reduction.
Flair Grohk
  • Fixed an issue where Grohk would not keep Ultimate Charge he gained from killing someone on a kill streak if he killed them with Tempest.
Flair Grover
  • Fixed an issue where Grover’s Blossom VFX would remain in the world when he died until he respawned.
  • Fixed an issue where Vine would attempt to cast if Grover was aiming at Atlas’ Stasis Field.
Flair Furia
  • Fixed an issue where Inflame would not provide all Champions with a full ammo refund on channel completion.
Flair Imani
  • Fixed an issue where the Mana Rift 2D icon would not display on the in-match Scoreboard.
  • Fixed an issue where a Player’s screen would fade back in after fading to black on the Victory or Defeat screens when playing Imani.
  • Shortened the VFX range of Inferno Cannon to better represent its actual damage range.
  • Fixed an issue where the non-Red Stellar Sorceress variants played the incorrect VFX when using the Radiant Peace Emote.
  • Fixed an issue where the meteorite VFX would not spawn in Stellar Sorceress Imani’s hands while she was charging Pyre Ball on low Particle Detail settings.
Flair Inara
  • Fixed an issue where players could have their Impasse walls up for longer than intended in a specific circumstance.
Flair Io
  • Fixed an issue where Luna’s location could desync between clients and the server in specific circumstances.
Flair Jenos
  • Fixed an issue where Void Grip would not be canceled if Jenos became Silenced while channeling it.
  • Fixed an issue where holding a Player with Void Grip could cancel that Player’s held directional input in some circumstances.
Flair Kinessa
  • Fixed an issue where the Scope UI was not centered properly on the screen.
Flair Koga
  • Updated description on Guild Tactics card to note that the heal should not occur multiple times in one instance of Skewer.
Flair Lex
  • Fixed an issue where Lex could heal off of damage-immune enemies with The Hunted card.
Flair Lian
  • Fixed an issue where Lian could get the Ultimate Charge refund from Enlightenment if she killed Luna or Imani’s Dragon with it.
Flair Maeve
  • Fixed an issue where the Player sometimes would not hear sound effects from enemies if they were affected by an enemy Maeve’s Ultimate.
Flair Mal’Damba
  • Fixed an issue where the VFX for the volume of Dread Serpent disappeared prematurely, causing Players to get Feared by it when the VFX was no longer visible.
Flair Pip
  • Fixed an issue where the Acumen card healed Pip for more than intended when he hit enemies with glancing blows.
  • Fixed an issue where Pip could heal off of damage-immune targets with the Acumen card.
Flair Ruckus
  • Fixed an issue where the wing VFX from Furia’s Inflame displayed on the front of Ruckus’ model instead of the back.
  • Fixed an issue where Emitter played an insignificant outward pulse VFX when activated, related to its former slow pulse effect.
Flair Seris
  • Fixed an issue where Seris could use Shadow Travel as she mounted and would keep the Shadow Travel VFX on her model while she was mounted.
Flair Strix
  • Fixed an issue where the Overburn card did not function.
  • Fixed an issue where the Scope UI was not centered properly on the screen.
Flair Talus
  • Fixed an issue where Talus could reactivate Rune of Travel to manually teleport back to his Rune while he was Silenced.
Flair Torvald
  • Fixed an issue where Nullify dealt a maximum of 640 damage over the course of its duration instead of 800.
Flair Zhin
  • Fixed an issue where Zhin was not fully immune to Crowd Control effects during the wind-up of Spite.
  • Fixed an issue where Zhin would sometimes pass through his Spite target on hit and be in an improper location for the duration of the ultimate.
  • Fixed an issue where Players could not equip Mastery Emotes in the Champions menu or the Match Lobby.
  • Fixed an issue where the Voice Line Preview button would not display on the Skins tab of the Champions screen.
  • Fixed an issue where Players could lose focus on the Talent Select screen in various ways.
  • Fixed an issue where players could reach unintended locations on Frog Isle if they used teleporting abilities.
  • Fixed an issue where canceling emotes early could cause unintended camera issues when transitioning from 1P to 3P for abilities and vice versa.
  • Fixed an issue where Players could obtain many ranks of the “Friends Forever” achievement without meeting the requirements.
  • Fixed an issue where the plank walkways near the Capture Point on Serpent Beach had inconsistent projectile collision.
  • Fixed an issue where the Skins Owned value on the Overview tab of the Profile Screen only displayed a maximum of three digits.
  • Fixed an issue where newly obtained Accessories would not be added to the “Show Owned Items Only” filter on the Accessories tab of the Profile screen unless the player unchecked and rechecked the filter.
  • Fixed an issue where the Crystal icon and price number were stretched incorrectly on the Purchase button for Change Name in the Store.
  • Updated Siege Training queue description to be more in line with the other Training queue descriptions.
  • Updated a Loading Screen description to remove a reference to Mixer.
  • Updated descriptions on Golden Skins and Weapons to remove unnecessary messaging and make them more consistent.
Under Investigation
  • Issues where players are receiving repeated acquisitions on login.
  • Issues where players are sometimes unable to properly close an acquisition, forcing them to restart the game.
  • Issues with Corvus’ Projection not sending him to the intended location.
  • Issues with cards and talent that improperly activate when a Player respawns.
  • Issues pertaining to audio loss on the Warder’s Gate map.

Public Test Server

Information on how to access the Public Test Server can be found here.
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2020.09.30 06:43 retro-roses Type me?

I (19F) am currently a freshman at a music conservatory in NYC. My major is classical violin.

I have clinical depression. It mainly manifests as low physical energy / low motivation. I was also diagnosed with ADD a few years back, but I think it may have been a misdiagnosis of anxiety.

My parents have always shown their love through financial support. They do not offer emotional support or encouragement. In my mother's case, this is due to her narcissistic tendencies. My father is the opposite- Rational (almost to a fault), and uncomfortable dealing with others' emotions / expressing his own. He is passive and conflict avoidant, but only when it comes to maintaining harmony within the household (aka keeping mom appeased).
I was raised strictly Roman Catholic. My mother taught the religion in a way that instilled major feelings of shame in me and my siblings. Currently, I am agnostic.
Elementary school in general:
I was not a happy kid. I struggled with severe anxiety, for which my parents refused to seek treatment. It centered around doing the "right' thing-- I felt an overwhelming sense of shame if I was scolded by an adult. I cried almost every night, often replaying the same events in my head for months/years.
My older sister described elementary school me as "shy, awkward, and eccentric."
My sister's description of me was accurate from an outside perspective. Strangely, I didn't see myself as shy/awkward back then-- probably because I liked attention. I acted goofy/strange to get a laugh out of people. Being "weird" was my schtick.
As I got older and cared less about validation, that phase went away. My anxiety decreased as I gradually distanced myself from my mother (which wasn't until late middle school).

As I mentioned, I'm a classical violin student. I love the artform. Studying and creating music is both mentally stimulating and emotionally fulfilling. I love that 90% of the job is independent problem solving. Not to mention, I also secretly revel in the positive attention I get from performing.
I dislike the constant pressure of being a musician. I often feel physically drained, which makes it difficult to stay motivated to do 2-4 hours of practice each day.

It depends on the setting, but I would most likely feel refreshed. I'd love a weekend to think and get my thoughts straightened out, not worrying about *doing* things, just planning.

I prefer indoor activities. I can have fun for a while playing frisbee or soccer, but I'd rather just sit somewhere and chat.

I'm probably more curious than average when it comes to concepts, but I don't care for it much when my dad goes off on tangents about motors or door hinges. I love analyzing art, especially pieces of music. Nothing hits the spot like an edgy piece full of symbolism.
I don't generally feel like I have more ideas than I can execute. Sometimes when I practice violin, I have trouble focusing on one problem at a time, but I suppose that's not the same.

Usually, I prefer to let someone else lead. If leading will save me time and energy on the project, then I will do so. I'm decent at it. My style normally consists of identifying and listing tasks, as well as the steps necessary to accomplish them.

I'm not particularly coordinated or uncoordinated. I like working with my hands (musician, pencil artist), but I don't tend to enjoy activities that require a ton of gross motor skills.

I enjoy drawing and playing music. I almost exclusively draw graphite portraits. I try to make them as detailed and realistic as possible. My main artform is music. Violin is my focus, but I also play piano as a hobby.

The past is something we should try to understand. The present is something we should try to savor. The future is something we should plan accordingly for, but not to the extent that it stifles the present.

I generally oblige, although it also depends on who is asking and how much they need the help. If the request is unreasonable or overly time-consuming, I decline politely or with a joke.
When I decide to help, it is because I don't mind making things easier for others and I like people to see me as someone they can receive support from without judgement.

Yes. I need to feel like things make sense to be comfortable.

It is important to me, but historically I've struggled with consistent hard work. I'm extremely ambitious, so it causes me a lot of distress when I encounter this issue. It's unclear to me if my flakey motivation is a fundamental element of my personality, or simply a result of my mental health challenges.

No; I don't have an urge to manipulate people. If anything, I might try to sway someone's opinion/decision to suit my wishes, but I just say my piece and leave it up to them. No bs involved.

I'm a visual learner. I remember things I read and (especially) write in detail, which is partly due to coloalphabet/numeral synesthesia. I dislike learning solely from listening to instructions or a lecture. I will grasp general ideas, but it will be hard to recall details.

I'm pretty good at strategizing. I have a slight tendency to bite off more than I can chew when planning my work out, but I figure out ways to deal with it. I don't normally like to improvise on projects, but I do appreciate it if new ideas or opportunities spontaneously pop up.

Constant improvement is important to me. The goal of self-mastery is a massive driving force in my life. It goes hand-in-hand with becoming a true musician.

I aspire to become a great performer. My dream is to be able to play whatever pieces I want to play, however I want them to sound.
In the short-term, my goal is to earn a major scholarship at a top conservatory. In the long term, I hope to earn a decent salary after graduation-- enough to live comfortably while paying off my debt.

I am scared of failure and stagnation. I don't want to graduate school and realize I'm not good enough to land a job. I like to think I'm special, but I recognize that my current ability isn't exceptional. I don't want to wake up one day and realize the window of opportunity to realize my potential has closed.

Harsh/irrational judgement. People with little patience/short tempers. Having to kick someone out of my dorm so I can eat my quesadilla in peace. Emotional confrontation.

I hate small talk. It's so useless. I literally can't understand why it exists other than when it's used to show respect to authority like teachers, mentors, etc.

Reaching goals, making a recording I enjoy listening to, making my mentor proud, and/or winning performance opportunities.

Burnout, losing a loved one, or disappointing people who matter to me.

I spend most of my time processing things internally. I don't think I'm usually aloof to my surroundings, except for when I'm very depressed (which is not the norm).

I think about my goals and refine my plans to reach them. In particular, I consider what obstacles might be slowing me down, and I try to comb through mental blocks. I'd definitely wish I had a pencil and a notebook.

I need time and space to let my options sit and marinate. Provided I have adequate time to mull it over, I won't change my mind after coming to a decision. If the decision is rushed, however, I'm likely to choose with less firmness and change my mind after the fact.

I process my emotions as soon as I manage to settle on a "game plan" for the given situation. Usually, I can do this quickly, but that wasn't always the case- I've gotten much better at it over time.
My thought process tends to look something like this:
"I have a date in 30 minutes. I'm nervous-- Why am I nervous? Probably because I don't know what to expect, and I'm worried I'll be caught off-guard by something. My plan is to try my best to be genuine, keep convos interesting, and state my boundaries if it becomes necessary. If it's awkward, I'll enjoy the food as much as possible and endure to the end."
more simply:
  1. Identify negative emotion
  2. Identify its cause
  3. Consider possible solutions
  4. Settle on what seems to be the best approach
Once I go through this process and come to a conclusion, I normally stop stressing and feel at peace in the moment.

I view emotions as the core of human experience. Without emotions, there would be no point to living (or dying either, I guess). Mastering my emotions is a difficult, ongoing journey, but I also consider it to be my noblest pursuit.

Occasionally. Sometimes I prefer listening to their opinions over asserting my own, especially if they know what they're talking about and I don't. I appease people if it's not worth the risk of disagreeing (ie. if I think it will cause emotional backlash). I try to point out logical inaccuracies and/or hypocrisy when it's not too risky.

I don't break rules often. Authority should be challenged at times, but I leave that to other people. If I break rules, it's either because I think they're morally flawed, or because following them would be *horrendously* inconvenient. That being said, I generally prefer to follow rules, especially since they're usually set in place by authority figures who better understand the reasoning behind them.

Being able to perform as I wish. Understanding myself and mastering self-discipline. Having the ability to savor the present, not letting time slip through my fingers. Being free of baggage from the past. Surrounding myself with good people. Living in comfort, but not stagnation.
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2020.09.30 01:27 frtoaster Spaces removed when text is copied from chat window

Tribble bug reported on 09/29/2020
When you copy and paste text from the chat window, the following spaces are removed from the text:
(a) the space after the date and time (b) the space after the channel name (c) the space after the colon following the account handle
Previously, these spaces were copied along with the rest of the text.

Steps to reproduce

  1. Install build ST.105.20200810a.25 (SVN 261196). Then start the game client.
  2. Press the Esc key. Click on the "Options" button. Then click on the "Chat" tab.
  3. Turn on the options "Show Dates" and "Show Times".
  4. Right-click on the chat window's text input box, and change the channel to [Local].
  5. Enter the following lines into chat window:
    Test-1 Test-2 Test-3 
  6. With your mouse, highlight the three lines you just entered in the chat window (including the date, time, channel name, character name, and account handle).
  7. After highlighting the lines above, release the left mouse button. Then paste the highlighted text into a text editor.
    [9/27 9:50] [Local] [email protected]: Test-1 [9/27 9:50] [Local] [email protected]: Test-2 [9/27 9:50] [Local] [email protected]: Test-3 
  8. Observe that all the spaces were copied and pasted along with the rest of the text.
  9. Install build ST.110.20200917a.3 (SVN 261138). Then start the game client.
  10. Repeat steps 2 through 5.
  11. With your mouse, highlight the three lines you just entered in the chat window. (Note that you won't be able to highlight the final "3" in the last line.)
  12. After highlighting the lines above, release the left mouse button. Then paste the highlighted text into a text editor.
    [9/27 10:06][Local][email protected]:Test- [9/27 10:06][Local][email protected]:Test- [9/27 10:06][Local][email protected]:Test- 
  13. Notice the missing spaces in the pasted text.

Related bug reports

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2020.09.30 01:20 whoisthemanwitdaplan Random girl approaches me, starts a convo, ask questions than bulks when I ask her out

So today I was walking my dog and this random girl walked up to me and started talking to me. She was attractive, seemed like she was interested in conversation, and kept asking me questions . and engaging.
I thought maybe she was giving me a sign to ask her out or for her phone number or something but when I did she seemed withdrawn, freaked out and confused.
This has happened to me sooo many times over the last 2 years since I got my dog. Idk if anyone has had this happen or a Similar situation, but i don’t get why approach a random guy and deeply engage in convo with him if you’re not interested? Why get offended or shocked when he asks for a date?
Has something like this happened to other people? How do you tell if it’s interest or just a friendly long winded conversation ?
EDIT: a lot of you who have commented I thank you for your response but please stop down voting me. What purpose does it serve to ruin my ability to post on certain Reddit forums because I have no karma left. I just got Reddit and still trying to figure out how all this works and it’s hurting my ability to interact on certain subreddits. If you dint understand someone instead ask for clarification and not immidately downvote. I’m soooo sure many of you guys wouldn’t like it if you genuinely wanted help, understanding or share your thoughts on something that’s bothering you and someone down voted it on top of that many didn’t understand the true meaning of the post and instead abscribed their own meaning unfairly. We will NEVER be able to understand each other , have more successful dating lives and have some kind of healing between the genders if you get upset when someone shares a concern respectfully
I think many of you have misread or misunderstood or applied an incorrect tone. This wasn’t at a dog park just a regular park . I was not saying she is not allowed to talk to me as many of you guys assumed and if you read my posts and coments for what they were you would see I didn’t say anything of the sort. I talked with her and engaged back to be friendly but after she asked me basically stuff like where I’m from, my dog name, my mane, etc. she than stared to ask me stuff like where I live, if I lived by myself , political and religious affiliations, about my ex girlfriend ( I got the dog for an ex gf but it didn’t work out, etc), if I was dating anyone etc. I thought she was interested. I naturally asked the same questions back to be polite and thought maybe something could come if this .
Where I take most issue is the fact she acted offended and shocked when I asked. Like I wasn’t allowed to ask her for a coffee. In my experience people rarely go out of their way to approach someone random let alone a girl approaching a boy so it’s natural I would think maybe she’s interested.
This was an interaction that in my opinion was friendly beyond what I consider is just a genuine interaction between 2 people. And yes it was more like 20-25 mins cause I ended the convo because I had to go back and telling work and I was periodically checking the clock on my phone.
To those saying “ why can’t a woman talk to a man without wanting him sexually“ or some interaction of that I never said that... you said ... no where in my posts I’d I say that so please stop taking your preconceived negative beliefs on gender and superimposing it on my posts. My issue is going out of your way, chasing me down , asking personal and intimiate questions for almost 30 mins than getting upset when I ask for a number or say “ you seem cool, we should grab coffee, can I have your phone number ?”
And fir everyone saying “ I only talk to guys because of the dog” how do you think it makes someone feel to know they are not important as an individual but are only interesting if they have a dog. I love love love sharing my dog with other people as she bring joy to anyone she interacts with but come on , I am also a human being with emotions and feelings as well and I would like people to ask me for me not just to get to knoe my dog. If you’re honest you’re only talking to me cause you dint want to feel guilty about showing more interest in the dog than an actual human being
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2020.09.29 20:29 sounding-off2021 In a tough situation w/ surrogate spouse Mother and emotionally unavailable Father

Hi all, I'm new to reddit, but I've been browsing this forum and similar forums for hours now and I just need some advice/support about a situation I am in as a result of narcissistic/selfish parenting. (TL;DR at the bottom of the thread.)
Background: I am a 20yoM and I currently live with my Mother. I was raised in a nuclear household with two other siblings and married parents. I was aware that they never had a good marriage, but since they were so helpless and didn't ever do anything about it, I never suspected that anything would happen. My father was emotionally unavailable and narcissistic and my mother was highly emotional and unstable, partially due to traumatic upbringing and partially due to marital issues.
When I was a senior in high school, my parents divorced. (They are mid-upper 50s) By this point, (17yo) I was already dealing with pretty substantial depression and manifesting anxiety, partially from genetics and partially from an earlier trauma I had experienced at 14 (a separate thread needed for that) of which I did not feel comfortable disclosing to them, due to fear of their reactions (or lack-thereof). There were major boundary issues in our house growing up, and I didn't really realize that until I went to therapy recently. I was aware of various details about their marriage and their issues, and I witnessed open arguments about their sex life and other issues as an adolescent. Around the time my Father left (beginning of senior year) I was also made aware of other marital issues that they had, including knowledge about their various separations and an affair, all of which took place before I was born.
After my first 2 months at college, I began sleeping (during breaks and such) at my Mom's new place, which was in the same town as my Father, who bought our family home from my Mother when she sold it. This is really when the toxic behaviors started to manifest between her and I. I am the youngest of three, and this caused me to have "special" treatment by my Mother, for better or worse. I now fear that I am in a very unhealthy surrogate spouse relationship with her, rooted in guilt and misplaced responsibility caused by my Father leaving her, and in fear of something happening to her and me not being able to save her. I take care of her when she is sick, help her with her WORK and I frequently do most of the household tasks for her. She is not making any attempt at dating or seeing anyone, and does not regularly see any friends. (All of which my dad has been doing for a while now.) She is highly emotional and quite neurotic at times, and I am often the one that is obligated to console her when she is emotional (which is always) and I am often her springboard for anything that she needs to vent about, usually work related stress and family issues. One of my siblings is not on speaking terms with her, and I am frequently a middle-man and put in uncomfortable situations when My mother asks about my sibling. I am also not comfortable opening up to her about my personal life, because she reacts in highly unstable ways, including screaming, gaslighting ("I feel like I don't even know you anymore, you just said 'this' a few months ago!!!"), and condemnation, ("You better be careful about what you say about your Lord!") especially regarding my sex life, my conflicting feelings about the Faith I was raised to believe in, etc. She has even threatened to hurt my scholarship for college if I chose to live with my Dad, since I get certain aid from the state by living with a single parent under $X per year in salary.
Hence the tough situation I am faced with. I am out of school right now due to COVID, and living with her entails all the above information, but living with my Father entails a completely different set of issues. He lives in my childhood home with basically nothing in it and frequently stays the night in another state with his new girlfriend and her child. Living there reminds me of my old family life and the house is just a shell of what it once was, and also gives me flashbacks to previous traumas. I'm frequently there to visit him and the split time between my parents is driving me crazy. I also cannot be transparent with my Father due to his emotional unavailability, not to mention the fact that I am venting to him about the woman that he left for some of these reasons. His narcissism makes him unable to be emotionally receptive to my problems in the first place. He is care free and is seemingly not effected at all by the consequences of his actions. He is just happy to be with a new woman (and a new kid, which makes me sick to my stomach to think about.) My older siblings are also not able to help... One of them is recovering from PTSD as a result of an abusive relationship and one is living with a SO in a different state. (The latter of which got really sick of all this and just left.)
I am open to any advice/support. Just needed a place to rant and get some feedback. I am very emotional as well and have Depression/Anxiety and have been bouncing between meds for a long time. This situation has cast a veil over my life and I feel neglected by my Family. Not to mention I was also in quarantine with my Mother since March, so I feel like I'm starting to lose my mind and need to get out. The narcissism on both ends has made me feel insignificant and unimportant.
Tl;DR: I live with an emotionally dependent/surrogate-spouse divorced Mother and my Father is Narcissistic/emotionally unavailable and unable to really do anything about my situation, as his marriage issues/divorce is one of the primary causes of this. Siblings are older and are not able to help. I need out and feel alone and trapped.
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2020.09.29 16:41 TheRealXyrith What My Mother Has Done So Far

Today, after all the Scapegoating my mother has done, achieved by first only doxing information that would appear incriminating based on then her families eyewitness accounts plus the Reynolds friend circle who has yet to not somehow know all people I have ever met concluded this means what I have done was accurate.
I can show you what they hide and the response that should be taken if found out, instead they try to exclude me from debates when they ask other people their opinions on what I have claimed with some sort of evidence that they won't show me, they won't talk to me and she somehow knows when I post to forums, then you also ignore she will even lie about being friends with Lisa Kudrow, all of this makes sense that they were able to read bi polar or schizophrenia would lead to somehow finally I would hear voices so they tried to convince even doctors that I am lying and have some sort of medical issue, these some people like cancel culture and refuse to stop pathologically lying to achieve forbidden things and just resort to the blame game and it takes a sting operation to uncover human trafficking.
When I was 8 years old what had happened should have stopped, human trafficking is now a felony. Now that they participate in Scapegoating, they have a support group that refused to talk to me at all, she then tells potential criminals that target the mentally ill or predators twards children all of my pictures plus somehow I have an illness or am lying, all this time never talking to me just somehow this evidence they have makes sense. Not one of these people talked to me yet so I can hear what they have said. They told me you can date anyone as long as you don't have sex, thru tried to tell people I was a pedophile, the other hated thing people might hate me for even to somehow they know these things while in prison with some sort of evidence that you can't prosicute simply because it's considered street justice or revenge porn at that moment of time, so tell me why they would scapegoat and abuse children all their lives so when they are adults they just look like a pedophile for?
"Revenge" porn and cancel culture targets of course and first you need evidence. That info isn't leaked to the target because they are the only person that can prove what they did today, so when you do see they may have shown up due to LOOKALIKES and you can look up Deepfake porn and Deepfake videos if you want, why would they try so hard to get away with punishing babies or children with rape right before their teenage years of then they only get 40 years for raping them anyways? They get a giant group of people to help lie, it just looks like a punishment at that point and the prize is they made an innocent child infamous then torture raped them ultimately opening the gate for humiliation on the scapegoat being sex trafficking, all they have to do is keep using water based lube and safe sex with anti inflammatory meds and either sux or twilight where it just looks like age play or submissive behavior lead to the porn.
I then showed people what they have done and picked apart their alibies to show you reality and then during what they do, they tell all but the target but hint at they told other people a different story and stick to that story outside of the people they claim they know as if they are saying they seek out confirmed targets for street justice and revenge porn on ALL AGES and must be protected from prosicution based on some sort of evidence that they claim if they target say couldn't then later be used as a p300 but that evidence is now in the minds of the prosicution, thus eliminated from logic they wouldn't just lie and claim they were all witnesses and still they try to find a way to leave no evidence on babies and children then scapegoat and groom the children to further publicly state it was some sort of street justice so their gang members get out of trouble, ultimately achieving the ultimate scapegoat status of then banished to a world of human trafficking without a support group because they solidified they are just shit that should be torture raped and lied about, there is no cancel culture for that is there?
So they will show you what makes sense to other people where you may believe what they said is to be the truth yet avoided me altogether and refusing to see what I have wasn't conclusive as some sort of why has these people yet chose to take me to court? To avoid being grouped together in the logic that they aren't in gangs that participate, with many aculades for gangs like the MS13 who recruit as early as kindergarten and those recruits have kids and family beyond their gang that can target kids that they don't trust to be in their gang. You care little about counter intelligence and how they could use that to make people look bad, then care little other than it makes sense they could make people look mentally ill based on a scapegoating familys need to somehow get rid of the evidence and ruin their lives forever through grooming then informing extremists that believe the parents have only been victims of this kids rampage of random tantrums.
So far this is hilarious that she would then claim this is slander when she offers no information to anyone other than this is just slander and somehow people believe her and then these people don't know me and don't ask me for evidence, they believe a pedophile that as early as 10 years old knee about me from the OK CAr Wash wouldn't try to frame me with Cory Timbs because her older friend Mike Cox knee Anna and they all knew Rachel already and before that was lifelong friends with the Reynolds who are all famous from their kids being in bands and they sing about supermanning donkey punches.
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2020.09.29 12:04 BuckGB Path of Exile: Heist - Upcoming Updates and Fixes

Heist, Path of Exile’s latest challenge league expansion, seems to have had a bit of a rocky start, and as such, we now get this announcement outlining Grinding Gear Games’ plans for the expansion’s nearest future. In short, you can expect some general stability fixes on top of a series of Heist improvements that should make the whole system smoother and more rewarding. Check it out:
We're now in the second week of the Heist league and the team is continuing to monitor your feedback and reported issues. In this news post we'd like to give you an update about some recently reported issues and to provide a general indication of what we're working on. Please note that a lot of the plans here are early and may change as they undergo development and internal testing.
Experience from Monsters in Heists
While there's currently no experience penalty on Heist monsters, we agree that in actual gameplay, they don't grant enough experience. We plan to significantly increase the experience that Heist monsters grant, with a focus on monsters encountered during Lockdown.
Heist Areas (in maps) are too long
We're going to standardise the size of Heists so that once you hit maps, they don't get any larger than the current Tier 1 size. You'll find a greater density of reward rooms in the higher-tier ones, of course.
Opening Job Doors in Heists
We have reduced the number of Heist Job doors along the direct path to the primary objective which need to be opened prior to Lockdown. We have also increased the speed at which Karst and Tullina complete the Agility Job.
There are some Heist Jobs that currently can't be sped up, but we're investigating the possibility of allowing this. In addition, some of the Heist doors have timing values that we'd like to make faster.
Observer Totems
Observer Totems, which can be found in Heists that require the Perception Job, increase Alert Level when you are close to them. One of the core issues is that it isn't necessarily obvious when you are approaching these totems or when you are in range of their Alert Level aura. We will be improving their visibility in a future update (both where they are and indicating when your Rogue specialising in Perception has made them vulnerable to damage).
Currently when a totem uses its Alert Level generation skill on you, your Alert Level goes up unless you kill it before it finishes using the skill. We will be changing it so that the skill essentially travels out in a wave that you can run away from or avoid. It will only increase the Alert Level if you are hit by it.
New Heist Bosses/Quests
We plan to enable two new boss encounters (and their accompanying questline) in an upcoming patch this week. Following that, we are aiming to enable another boss encounter (and questline) next week!
Heist Rewards
We have completed a large pass on Heist rewards. Our current plan is to increase the value of various reward types, such as Generic, Talismans, Metamorph and Harbinger. We want to provide further incentive to prioritising Reward Room Chests, therefore we will be moving some of the special rewards from Main Path Chests into Reward Room Chests.
Various Reward Room Chests will have a chance to drop Scarabs which match their respective rewards. We will be reducing the frequency at which Generic Reward Room Chests appear in Heists as well.
We have increased the Rogue Marker value of Heist objectives by up to 40% (based on the Tier of the Contract).
We have reduced the revealing cost for high-tier Blueprints by up to 15%. Alongside the increased Rogue Markers generated by running Heist Contracts, we expect that you should feel less strained by Blueprint revealing costs.
Additionally, we plan to change Blueprints to display all of the Reward Rooms that the Wings contain, rather than just the Reward Rooms that can be revealed. This way, you'll be able to see all of the potential rewards in a given Wing, giving you more information to decide whether you'd like to reveal a given Wing.
We are also considering some changes to how much you can extend the lockdown timer, such that it's still an effective strategy, but not one that trivialises opening all reward chests.
Portals back to The Rogue Harbour
There's a problem where returning to the Rogue Harbour can put you into the wrong Harbour, preventing you from returning to your Heist. We attempted to fix it last week but ran into some big problems and had to revert the fix. We have another plan for fixing it which we hope to deploy later this week.
Client and Instance Crashes
We aim to fix crashes as soon as possible, prioritising crashes based on how frequently they're occurring and how many players they're affecting. On Saturday, we fixed the most common client crash. We will continue to fix crashes as quickly as possible in our upcoming patches.
PlayStation 4 Crashes
The common client crash on this platform has the full attention of our engine development team at the moment.
Stash Tab Folders and Stash Tab Affinities
Stash Tab Folders are nearing completion. We will then be doing extensive internal testing. As soon as they're ready to go, we will be patching them in.
Stash Tab Affinities will take a little bit more time to complete, but we don't want to delay Stash Tab Folders. We're aiming to have Stash Tab Affinities released within the next few weeks.
It's critical that both of these features are implemented very safely and tested thoroughly, due to their nature.
Official macOS release
Since our unofficial release of an experimental macOS client immediately before the Heist release, we have been working on fixing commonly-reported issues. There are still a few important issues remaining, so we don't have a release date locked down yet. We'd like it to ideally be next week though.
The following commonly-reported issues are fixed and are awaiting testing/deployment: - Fixed a bug where Tullina could fail to open a Heist door in the Underbelly. - Fixed a bug where some Prophecies would trigger and be consumed in Heists. - Fixed a bug where Elemental Overload would not show its buff timer. - Fixed a bug which caused Grand Heists to sometimes fail to spawn an entrance to a Wing. - And many more - we'll post a preview of patch notes once we have them tested and assembled into a patch.
Thanks for making it through this long post! We'll continue to monitor feedback as these changes are deployed. We're likely to make additional improvements, and we'll keep you updated about those too.
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2020.09.29 03:19 Battleharden Figured I share my Epic Games experience that happened back in 2018.

So I have had an Epic account for as long as I can remember if I were to put a date on it I'd say since 2009. The reason for the account was so I could play Unreal Tournament 3. Anyway fast-forward to 2018 and there's this brand new battle royal game out called Fortnite. After playing only about 3 games I start getting kicked with the message "YOU WERE REMOVED FROM THE MATCH DUE TO YOUR IP,VPN, MACHINE, OR CHEATING". This really surprised me because I wasn't doing any of that so I go to the forums to try and figure out what could be causing the issue. I even messaged epic support to see if it could be a false flag on my computer. The guy says my computer may be banned but isn't sure. I'm the only one that uses my computer so this makes no sense at all.
I then found a thread saying to uninstall Epic launcher and EAC then reinstall to fix the issue. So I did that and was finally able to play games unimpeded by random disconnects. However the next day I find that I can't sign into my Epic account at all. Long story short after contacting them and explaining the problem they say my account has been banned for cheating. Now I never cheated at this stupid children's game and honestly couldn't give two shits if I never play it again, but what really pisses me off is that I can't use my 11 plus year old Epic account anymore. Especially now that they're a store and I need an account to play fucking ROCKET LEAGUE. I've tried to get the ban lifted multiple times over the past two years to no avail. All I get back is a computer response basically telling me to kick rocks and that their banning algorithm never gets anything wrong. I even asked to just get my account back and keep me banned in Fortnite, but still they tell me tough luck. This is why I'll never use their fucking store and why when anyone asks I say.... FUCK EPIC!
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2020.09.29 02:29 AsaTJ Crusader Kings 3 Patch 1.1 Notes: What They Actually Mean

Game Balance





Game Content



Link to official notes:
These take a very long time to make. If you got a good laugh and want to support my work, you can buy me a coffee:
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2020.09.28 23:35 ButWutAboutTheDogs But.... the Jealousy

ETA Update: Thank you to everyone taking the time to read my post and offer advice. I had an honest conversation with my SO tonight, and he admitted that he told her he still has feelings for her and he still loved her. Ill be bringing this post to relationships because im honestly heartbroken and this will likely no longer be a stepparent issue.....
This is long and all over the place, and maybe not the right forum, but Im thinking that I have the best shot of finding people here who share my situation. I just need to vent, and hopefully get some advice.
My SO is still in love with BM. He told me this way back when we first started dating. The break up was not a simple one, and was BM's choosing, resulting in several months of SO trying to reconcile things. SO and I started dating casually for awhile. After some time, I fell hard and things moved rather quickly. SO has 2 boys 5M & 6M who I adore and we all get along very well. Due to circumstances outside of his control, he no longer had a place to stay with the boys and having been a SAHD for most of the boys lives, was/is only working a minimum wage job. In an effort to fix the problem, and not see him lose his kids, I moved him and his children in with me (shared custody - a few days a week). BM was HC and if you see my other posts, you will see that things have not been great there.

Recently, BM & SO have started being able to communicate. Where he used to vent to me about everything she said and did, they now text several times a week or even several times a day and he never shares with me what they are texting about any longer. He assures me that what he & BM had is over, and that he is just trying to coexist and be friendly with her for the sake of the boys. He swears that even if she begged for him back at this point what he & I have is more important and he would never return... So why is my anxiety on high alert? How do I resolve this? Do I ask to be a part of all their communication going forward or is that too pushy? Never in a million years would I be okay with somebody I dated to be friends with their ex, but this is the first guy I've dated with kids, and that changes things. I dont know what to think anymore. I have no kids on my own.

Does anybody have any suggestions on how to successfully navigate this in a relationship, or been in a similar situation?
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2020.09.28 22:32 Tibo9 Need to find a way to tidy up some big documents.Help.

So a friends travel agency wants to tidy up their client info database because its become a mess since a lot of different employees are using it.The thing is that it has prolly several thousands of clients info inside so it is extremely difficult to do by hand.
I will put up a picture as an example of what it would look like. <----link to the example
What we want to do is correct mistakes like the one in the camp "Driver" where Alexander is mistyped as Aexander;at the camp "Date" we want all the dates to be either with dots(.) or slashes (/);all the phone numbers should have all the country prefixes deleted (+45);the Arrivals should all be in the 15:00 format not 3PM and so on.
I am not necessarily asking for you to do it for me,but atleast 1.tell me if its possible and how difficult it is 2.give me any faint idea that you might have 3.if you saw any post on some kind of page/forum etc that explains something similar to what I am asking for please link it
PS:The original documents are not in Exccel and I am not that good at programming so be mindful of that
If you require additional information to be able to help me just send me a message.
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2020.09.28 18:18 Ok-Dragonfruit8732 11 months in, four days out

I was very lucky to already be in therapy when I started dating my as-of-now Nex, because my therapist zeroed in on what was happening and helped me see it, even though I kept trying to make excuses for my Nex.
The therapist never said the words, by the way, I didn’t even find the terminology or forums/communities talking about this until after I had made the decision to end the relationship.
But it helped that my therapist was so good at predicting things before they happened, and at knowing things I hadn’t mentioned about what was going on in the relationship. That made me feel like I wasn’t just painting a picture of myself as the innocent one and making it out like I was trying so hard while my s.o. was the “bad guy”; it was clear that my therapist was on to something, even if I didn’t want to believe it.
The week of the breakup was very intense and scary. My nex cycled through these modes: angry recriminations (telling me I never cared for her and I was a sociopath and I had broken my promises and I was a liar and a monster), pleading for me to reconsider, and brief periods of melancholy resignation (which seemed like she wanted sympathy for having “ruined everything”). But she didn’t stick to any one of them for very long.
It was very hard, because when you see someone you have cared about crying or yelling or sad or pleading, a natural human response is to want to engage. But there was no way to engage that would accomplish anything. Maybe a trained therapist could do something to help her somehow at some point, but nothing I could say or do would help her, and more importantly, engaging with her was only going to allow her to continue to hurt me.
I got her to go stay with her family. I rekeyed the locks. I am responding only to communication that is directly about transferring the rest of her belongings to her.
And as to me: I’ve got stuff to work through, I am very grateful that I am so happy with my therapist. Normally after a breakup (even just a normal one) I careen into unhealthy eating and lifestyle decisions, but I’ve been doing really well so far.
Reading the things people here have been posting, I want to say that it has been enormous for me to see that I’m not the only person who has been taken in by this sort of routine, and that I’m not the only one who has been deceived and betrayed, and to see how the pattern plays out. It has been helpful and comforting to understand that it’s not about me being weak or foolish, but that my care and concern and emotions were being hijacked by someone who knew how to play them.
The ironic thing is that when I was ending things with my nex, I must have phrased something in a weird way, because she was so paranoid about defending against interpretations of her behaviors I may have seen on “internet forums” (I hadn’t looked on any forums at all), that’s what made me search this out and find what was going on.
So thank you all, and I hope anyone here who is trying to find the path out is able to do so. I cannot imagine how much harder it would be to sever these relationships the longer they go on.
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2020.09.28 16:52 Roy_Manders MSI X570 ACE - Code 40, code 00, weird reboots

I just finished my new build a few days ago (running with a very old Geforce Gt230 until i get a replacement though... wanted to build and test it....). However, almost every boot starts with a code 00 (motherboard not doing anything, rgb lights go on though). After i restart the pc, it sometimes follows with a code 40 (System is waking up from the s4 sleep status). It will get stuck on code 40 for a long, long time, until i restart it again. The third error i've seen so far with my setup are random reboots before even being able to enter bios/windows. It will keep rebooting until i hit the restart button on the case.
I've read one similar issue on reddit, where the only solution was to send back the motherboard as it was proven faulty after testing. Does anyone else have these issues? or did anyone found a solution?
Setup:- AMD Ryzen 7 3700X 3.6 GHz 8-Core Processor- MSI MAG CORE LIQUID 360R 78.73 CFM Liquid CPU Cooler- MSI MEG X570 ACE ATX AM4 Motherboard- G.Skill Trident Z Neo 32 GB (2 x 16 GB) DDR4-3600 CL16 Memory- Gigabyte AORUS NVMe Gen4 1 TB M.2-2280 NVME Solid State Drive (without heatsink)- MSI MPG Sekira 500G ATX Mid Tower Case- Gigabyte AORUS P GM 850 W 80+ Gold Certified Fully Modular ATX Power Supply- Temporary Geforce gt230 (until i get my hands on an used 2080ti or new 3080)- MSI Optix MPG341CQR (Monitor)
Versions:- Windows 10 home- Bios version: E7C35AMS version 1.92, build date: 04/23/2020 (newest as far i have seen)
Experiencing the following issues:- Stuck on code 00 on boot- Stuck on code 40 on boot- Random reboots before even able to enter bios/windows (Monitor does not show screen)
This is a clean setup, so no overclocking or other adjustements have been made. Once it does boot, i experience no problems, only got issues when booting my pc.
Just cleared CMOS by removing the PSU, removing the small onboard battery, pressing power button for a few seconds and let it sit for 10 minutes. On the next boot i received the message that CMOS has been cleared.
After clearing CMOS, the third boot gave me another error:Booting takes a while, showing code 15, 14, 92, c4, repeat. (No clue what C4 is, not in the manual, other codes are initializations).It ends with code 0d on which it got stuck (Reserved for future AMI SEC error codes). Afer a single restart the PC booted to Windows. My guess: Motherboard is faulty/broken. Anyone who has any idea?
Edit:Another weird thing i've seen in the dragon center application, is the CPU-frequency. It sometimes jumps up to 33000+ or gets a reading of -21 instead of the 2600-3600 readings. (
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2020.09.28 16:09 yarobagriy Blogging vs Newsletters, open rates, and optimizing paid conversations on SubStack with Casey Botticello of Blogging Guide

About this episode: This week we have the successful Casey Botticello with us. Casey is a very successful blogger and newsletter creator. He’s one of the few recipients of the Substack Writers Grant, creator of the Substack Writers Facebook group, and has over 10,000 subscribers on his newsletter called Blogging Guide. In this episode, we’ll cover his perspective on blogging versus newsletters, open rates, and optimizing paid conversions on Substack. We also have a second part of this podcast which will cover how to create digital content to increase ROI and revenue and creative uses of newsletters. To get access to this second part, join the Newsletter Crew community.
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2020.09.28 15:23 Will_Sell_My_Mother [GIVEAWAY] [[..Weekly Free Decant..]] Episode #62 - Tom Ford - Something simply FABULOUS EDP 2ml

** This will be open until September 30/20 (Wednesday) **
Happy Monday everyone!
I have just been swamped lately and felt I was falling behind on the give aways. Although this is a repost (from a very long time ago.) I figured it is special enough to bring it back for a 2nd round of appreciation.
Last week we had the 61th give away. Winner Majestic_Bicycle has notified me regarding the package and also left a comment on the original thread. Thank you very much.
Hope everyone is safe and doing alright.
Thank you to all that reply on these posts and participate. Also Big THANK YOU to those that purchase from me, which greatly contributes to allow me to continue with the free giveaways. Kudos to everyone.
....[[ To be included in the give away comment based on the current question. ]].....
This weeks question is: Smells are subjective..however there certainly are patterns or at least some similarities with crowd pleasing fragrances. What do you wear to attract the opposite sex? Do you have a date night fragrance or a sexy scent?
This week feature is Tom Ford Fucking Fabulous EDP
  1. Top Notes - Clary Sage, Lavander
  2. Mid Notes - Bitter Almond, Vanilla, Leather, Orris
  3. Base Notes - Tonka Bean, Leather, Cashmeran, Amber, White Wood
When this first came out (I think 2017) I was totally on the band wagon. It was a rebel name and limited product. Being a closet Tom Ford fan I was all over this. I envisioned when people asked me .."What are you wearing? Its amazing"
I could quickly and smoothly just say "Fucking Fabulous" and nothing more. That it would excuse me from basically just swearing to a complete stranger.... lol
When they replied "Excuse me?"...I would be able to explain in more detail, "I am wearing Tom Ford Fucking Fabulous" Which would bring it all together and closure to the shock value from the previous comment. Lol.. What can I say, I like to ruffle peoples feathers sometimes..
But alas.. this is not how it played out ever. When I got my first samples I was not too impressed. If you frequent fragrance forums/sites you will know this fragrance has pretty mixed reviews. Sillage and Longevity are all over the place and you either think its amazing or mediocre.
Doesnt smell bad, just.. nothing I cared to pursue. When this came out I was actively starting my hobby in the fragrance world. I was quickly over whelmed with a lot of amazing fragrances from all types of Frag Houses... and F Fabulous just kinda sat on the back burner.
Now its been sometime and I have re acquired F Fabulous. During the last few days wearing it I have gotten some positive comment. It is an interesting scent, its unique to its self and I cant exactly compare it to another fragrance. (Edit: Some have said its similar to Fantasy by Brittany Spears and Black Gold by Mancera. Dont know if there is any truth to that.)
I think it is a situational frag, better you are dressed the better it will smell. If that makes sense.
First sprays are amazing.. then the dry down and its just a soft, fluffy, powdery skin scent. At least on me.
Its nice.. its quality, but maybe not Private Line distinguish enough. I totally suggest everyone to try it, but dont blind buy it.
If you just want to skip the weekend give away and get some of this very unique fragrance, please message me. I do sell decants which include shipping with tracking. Also please refer to my Tom Ford thread for others available. Every one has been happy with their purchases.
Ask for Pricing
2 ML $XX.XX / 5 ML $XX.XX / 10 ML $XX.XX / 30 ML $XX.XX
Rules are simple
  1. Entry.
  2. Simply answer the give away question.
  3. Please 1 post per username (please dont use multi accounts)
  4. Tally the names and use List Randomizer 3 times. Selecting the winner on the 3rd randomize.
  5. Once winner has been picked and notified just shoot me your mail info and will ship the next day.
  6. Sorry but shipping only for USA residence.
PREVIOUS ..[[..Weekly Free Decant..]].. GIVE AWAYS
Previous Give Away List
Episode #48 - Creed Acier Aluminium - EDT 2ml - WINNER - rsn1990
Episode #49 - Assorted Nose Candy Goodies - WINNER sevan06
Episode #50 - Assorted Nose Candy Goodies - WINNER - Olliesmom4
Episode #51 - Assorted Nose Candy Goodies - WINNER - bbbbbbbbbbbab
Episode #52 - Tom Ford Purple Patchouli - EdP 2ml - WINNER - chaching37
Episode #53 - Tom Ford Purple Patchouli - EdP 2ml - WINNER - Royanon
Episode #54 - Givenchy - Dahlia Divin Eau Initiale EdT 2 ml - WINNER - Jennyfromtheblock55
Episode #55 - Givenchy - Live Irrésistible Blossom Crush EdT - 2 ml - WINNER - Ignominious333
Episode #56 - Prada - Infusion D' Iris EdP - 2 ml - WINNER - bagelbiteprincess
Episode #57 - Tom Ford - Moss Breches EdP - 2 ml WINNER - existentialepicure
Episode #58 - Chanel - Sycomore - EdP - 2 ml WINNER - nuthathoway
Episode #59- Tom Ford - Sole Di Positano EDP 2ml - WINNER - suthna
Episode #60 - Tom Ford - Arabian Wood EDP 2ml - WINNER - fortunatevoice
Episode #61 - Tom Ford - Velvet Gardenia EDP 2ml - WINNER - Majestic_Bicycle
Episode #62 - Tom Ford - Something simply FABULOUS EDP 2ml - WINNER KahlaPaints
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